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We were very inspired by this idea of bragging and complaining with others about how much we work and trying to understand whether it operates as a symbol of status in the eyes of others. Silvia Bellezza

Pre-Covid, I was routinely running around, running errands, picking up kids and groceries.  Dropping them off, juggling conversations and irritating shoppers with my mountain bike focused conversations.  As I whizzed around the supermarket forgetting things I should have purchased, that were not on the list.  At the end of the day, I realised the missed opportunities as I was so preoccupied with my busy day and staying on schedule.  I was intent on my busy-ness.

When calling people, at some point, the standard response became: ‘I’m busy’, when asking someone how they are, or if they had a moment to speak.  There was a certain sense that they are in demand and that they were in high demand, thus they could excuse themselves from participating in communication.

Is being busy a choice?  I suspect that it could be.  Should there be a shift to be mindful of what our goals and objectives? Maybe finding a way to remain open to positive opportunities, seeking to preplan our workload and filtering what we should be doing.  By being open, we can negotiate with others what is to be done, by whom and when.

Our youngest has trained herself to ask me for things like screen time or junk food, when I am under the pump, hoping for an unconsidered ‘yes’.

Perhaps by keeping our focus of what we seek to achieve together with discipline, understanding the importance and prioritising based on that.

Here’s the thing: it’s harming how we communicate, connect, and interact. Everyone is busy, in different sorts of ways. Maybe you have lots of clients, or are starting a new business, or are taking care of a newborn. The point is this: with limited time and unlimited demands on that time, it’s easy to fill your plate with activities constantly. But this doesn’t mean that you should. Merideth Fineman

Is work or life is a competition to be the busiest?  If not, remembering busy is not the goal, it is not our desired state, our success and fulfillment should be.

Post Covid, a number of leaders that I occasionally get to text or speak with seem to be chasing their tails, working extraordinary hours.

‘Crazy busy’ is a great armor, it’s a great way for numbing.  What a lot of us do is that we stay so busy, and so out in front of our life, that the truth of how we’re feeling and what we really need can’t catch up with us. Brene Brown

I suspect for many social restrictions have enabled some of us to take the time to pick up the phone.  To reconnect and check in on friends and loved ones.  To step away from busy?

Photo of Shinagawa Station, Minato, Japan by Karen Lau  on Unsplash.