It is said, that all work and no play makes a dull person. As kids we are focussed on play, it is only as we emerge into our late teens and 20’s that we start to talk ourselves out of it.
Writers talk about ‘Time Poverty’. Time is hard to account for — it’s easily consumed, squandered, and lost. But it receives far less attention than money does. Ref: https://hbr.org/cover-story/2019/01/time-for-happiness
The ‘72 hour work week’ preoccupies many with people always connected to their work through their devices. The inevitable consequence being that they don’t do much else. However, there are downsides at work. When people don’t have time for hobbies, businesses pay a price. Hobbies can make workers substantially better at their jobs. Ref: https://hbr.org/2019/02/why-you-should-work-less-and-spend-more-time-on-hobbies
The arrival of children makes it okay again, to play. I was a Lego kid and when our children started to receive Lego as gifts, that became a lot of fun. When I started to receive sets, it triggered a deep dive on sets that sparked my interest. Building helped my break away from work and to share with our beloved.
My discussions about Hobbies with clients and colleagues over my career has often landed on the idea that we all need a ‘vice’. A vice can take many forms, it can be artistic, musical, automotive, collection based, sporting based, outdoor focussed or indeed toys and games.
Social events in Clubs
Racing – Sprints
Track & Field
We can be social, as well as trying to balance a busy work life and find ourselves Busy.
We can indulge in our hobbies in solitude and find ourselves Engrossed.
Pursuing neither makes us Frustrated and unfulfilled.
However, when we indulge in my hobbies with family and friends, I find it very Fulfilling.
Clubs can often be involved, where we enjoy a shared identity. For me that is amateur track days with our four wheeled toys. This is a great opportunity to reconnect with people with similar interests and always involves close friends.
There is a conscious effort involved in bringing friends and hobbies together, and often considerable effort and expense. Critical thinking can make us weigh up is it really worth it? Personally, when I go karting with my family, when we play games together it really makes us feel whole, we feel fulfilled.
A game of charades brought the deepest of belly laughs, the likes of which I had never heard before.
The only conceivable way, and it is not bullet proof, that I can lure a lifelong friend away from work is a track day. Once every few years we stay near the track and talk about what is going on for us and indeed the events of the day. This connects us for moths afterwards, until the next track day. Artefacts like our race helmets reminding us, in addition to photos and videos from the day.
So, what is your vice and who do you enjoy it with?